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Overconsumption has become so common that many people hardly notice it anymore. Whether you’re mindlessly scrolling through online stores, stocking up on things you don’t need, or constantly redecorating your home, overconsumption can sneak into our lives in subtle ways. But some behaviors, while increasingly normalized, are actually far from healthy or sustainable. Here are several things that may seem "normal" in modern consumer culture but are clear signs of overconsumption. 1. Buying Things We Don’t Need (and Will Never Use) We all make impulse purchases from time to time. However, if you find yourself consistently buying items you never use—whether it’s clothing, gadgets, or household items—this is a red flag. Retailers use clever marketing to create a sense of urgency (think flash sales, limited-time offers), prompting us to buy things we wouldn’t normally consider. Why It's Not Normal: - It leads to clutter and waste. - You’re wasting money and resources on things that don’t add value to your life. - It’s often driven by boredom or emotional voids rather than genuine needs. Solution: Before making a purchase, ask yourself: *“Do I really need this?”* If the answer is no, walk away and reconsider your decision. 2. Food Waste: Throwing Away Edible Items Throwing away food has sadly become routine for many households. Whether it's letting leftovers spoil, buying too many groceries that we can't consume, or simply disregarding expiry dates, food waste is a hidden form of overconsumption. Why It's Not Normal: - Globally, one-third of all food produced goes to waste, leading to environmental harm. - Excess food waste fills landfills and contributes to greenhouse gas emissions. - It reflects a disconnect from the value of food and the resources it takes to produce it. Solution: Be more mindful when shopping and eating. Meal planning, using leftovers creatively, and composting can help cut down on waste. 3. Hoarding: Stockpiling Beyond Need Hoarding, or stockpiling goods to an extreme level, often goes unnoticed because it’s masked as preparation or frugality. However, when you’re constantly adding to your stockpile without using what you already have, it becomes a form of overconsumption. Why It's Not Normal: - It creates a psychological burden and physical clutter. - You may end up wasting items before you have the chance to use them. - Hoarding can cause a sense of scarcity that feeds anxiety rather than relieving it. Solution: Focus on using what you already have before purchasing more. Reorganize your home to create a system where items are used in a timely and logical order. 4. Constantly Upgrading Technology The pressure to always have the latest phone, laptop, or gadget is immense. Companies regularly release new models with minor updates, pushing consumers to feel like they’re missing out if they don’t upgrade. This cycle feeds into a culture of overconsumption, where items are discarded long before their functional life ends. Why It's Not Normal: - Contributes to electronic waste, one of the fastest-growing waste streams globally. - It perpetuates a “disposable culture,” where items are seen as temporary. - Financially unsustainable—upgrading frequently can strain your budget. Solution: Break the upgrade cycle by keeping your gadgets for longer. Unless a new device offers substantial improvements or meets a critical need, stick with what you have. 5. Constantly Redecorating Your Home Redecorating your home can be a fun and creative way to express yourself. However, when it becomes a frequent activity driven by trends, it turns into another form of overconsumption. With social media and home decor influencers constantly promoting new styles and must-have items, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking you need to update your space regularly to stay relevant. Why It’s Not Normal: - It encourages unnecessary spending on furniture, decorations, and materials that may not last long. - Frequently replacing items can lead to waste, especially when old furniture and decor are discarded without much use. - Redecorating frequently can create a sense of dissatisfaction with what you already have, feeding a cycle of constant wanting. Solution: Instead of completely overhauling your home decor with every trend, focus on timeless pieces that you can build upon. Use smaller, inexpensive updates like cushions, art, or lighting to refresh your space without the need for constant, large-scale changes. 6. Fashion Fads and Fast Fashion The fashion industry thrives on making consumers feel like they constantly need new clothes to stay “on trend.” Fast fashion brands fuel this by producing cheap, low-quality clothing in rapid cycles. However, constantly buying into fleeting fashion trends is a major sign of overconsumption. Why It’s Not Normal: - Fast fashion is one of the largest polluters globally, contributing to water waste and toxic dyes. - It promotes a throwaway culture, where clothing is treated as disposable. - It exploits labor in developing countries, driving down wages and working conditions. Solution: Opt for timeless, quality pieces over fast fashion. Consider buying secondhand or investing in sustainable brands that prioritize ethical production. 7. Thrift Store Hauls: The Dark Side of Secondhand Shopping Thrift shopping has gained popularity as an affordable and sustainable alternative to fast fashion, and while it’s great to buy secondhand, the concept of “thrift store hauls” can still feed into overconsumption. Many people approach thrifting as an opportunity to buy large quantities of items simply because they’re cheap, without much thought about whether those purchases are necessary or will be used. Why It’s Not Normal: - Even though thrifted items are secondhand, excessive buying still contributes to clutter and waste. - It undermines the original intention of thrift shopping—being mindful about consumption and giving old items a second life—by encouraging impulse buying. - Overconsumption at thrift stores can limit availability for those who rely on secondhand goods for affordability. Solution: Approach thrift shopping with the same mindfulness as any other type of shopping. Go in with a clear idea of what you need, rather than grabbing items simply because they’re inexpensive. Prioritize quality over quantity, and be mindful of how much you bring into your home, even if it’s secondhand. This way, you can still enjoy the benefits of thrifting without falling into the trap of overconsumption. Less is More Overconsumption, in all its forms, has far-reaching consequences. While it’s easy to fall into the trap of excessive consumption, recognizing these behaviors as problematic is the first step toward making healthier, more sustainable choices. Whether it’s buying less, wasting less, or being more mindful of how we consume media, small changes can have a big impact on our well-being and the planet. By consciously shifting away from overconsumption, we can prioritize quality over quantity, mindfulness over impulse, and sustainability over waste. Remember, just because something is common doesn’t mean it’s normal—or healthy.

The school year has began and I hope you are getting into the swing of things. With the return to school comes so many responsibilities. Surviving the school year is not for the faint and requires establishing and maintaining effective habits. Without a doubt, this sets the tone for a productive year for both parents and children. Here are some essential habits that can help ensure a smooth and successful school year: Establish Consistent Routines Routines provide a sense of stability and predictability. Set regular times for waking up, meals, homework, and bedtime. Consistent routines help children understand what to expect and can reduce stress and resistance. Tip: Create a visual schedule to help younger children follow the routine. 2. Maintain Open Communication Effective communication between parents, teachers, school nurses, other care takers and children is crucial. Keep an open line of dialogue with your child about their school day, and stay in touch with teachers to monitor progress and address any concerns early. Tip: Use a communication journal or app to track important updates and share feedback. 3. Encourage a Growth Mindset Promote a growth mindset by praising effort rather than just results. Encourage your child to see challenges as opportunities for learning and to persist through difficulties. This mindset can foster resilience and a love for learning. Tip: Celebrate small successes and discuss what can be learned from setbacks. 4. Stay Organized Keep track of important dates, assignments, and activities with a family calendar or planner. Organizational tools help manage everyone’s schedules and ensure that nothing is overlooked. Tip: Set aside a specific time each week to review and plan upcoming events. 5. Support Healthy Habits Ensure your child is getting enough sleep, eating nutritious meals, and engaging in physical activity. A healthy lifestyle supports better concentration, mood, and overall well-being. Tip: Plan and prepare balanced meals and snacks, and encourage regular exercise through fun activities. 6. Be Involved in School Activities Participate in school events, parent-teacher conferences, and volunteer opportunities. Being involved shows your child that you value their education and helps you stay connected with their school community. Tip: Attend at least one school event each semester to show support and engagement. 7. Set Realistic Goals Work with your child to set achievable academic and personal goals for the year. Break these goals into smaller, manageable steps and celebrate progress along the way. Tip: Regularly review and adjust goals as needed to keep them relevant and motivating. 8. Encourage Independence Foster independence by allowing your child to take responsibility for their schoolwork and other tasks. Teach them time management and problem-solving skills to build confidence and self-reliance. Tip: Provide guidance and support, but allow your child to make decisions and learn from their experiences. 9. Create a Positive Homework Environment Designate a quiet, organized space for homework and ensure your child has the necessary supplies. Encourage good study habits and be available for support without doing the work for them. Tip: Establish a homework routine and provide regular breaks to keep focus and motivation high. 10. Practice Self-Care Finally, remember to take care of yourself. Managing stress and maintaining a positive outlook will help you support your child more effectively. Prioritize self-care and balance your own needs with family responsibilities. Tip: Set aside time for activities you enjoy and practice relaxation techniques to manage stress. By incorporating these habits into your daily life, you can create a supportive environment that fosters your child's academic and personal growth throughout the school year. What's are some of your parenting tips that help you navigate the school year?

Hi! How is your week going? We are nearing the fall season and school has started for many kids. How are you dealing with the little and not so little ones returning to school? I won't apologize because I could not wait for the year to start. The summer was good, but I am happy to be back at what feels like my normal life. I also do quite enjoy having a paycheck, so being back at work as a substitute teacher has been great so far. At times, I think about my human resources salary, but do not miss the stressful environment, so I am staying in a place of gratitude. I am also so grateful for all the people who work at my children's school from the teachers, administrative/clerical employees, the janitor, the lunch aides, the subs and every other individual in between. With all the preparation for school, I managed two posts this week, Shut the World Out: How to Handle Your Child's Public Tantrum or Meltdown and What's Cooking Wednesday: Best Bread Recipe . As we wrap up this week, I just wanted to take a moment to wish you a fantastic weekend. It’s been a pleasure sharing these amazing parenting tips that I know have been helpful to me and could also help you, and a recipe for bread that you will never regret making. I hope you find them both engaging and valuable. It's supposed to be a rainy weekend here in the Capital District, but as a parent, I will be schlepping my daughter to soccer and enjoy a possible rainstorm. It will be a great time to step away from the hustle and bustle of daily life. So whether you’re planning to relax at home, catch up with friends, or explore new adventures, I hope you make the most of it. Sometimes, a little break is all we need to recharge and come back with fresh perspectives. Remember to take some time for yourself, and don’t forget to enjoy the little moments that make life special. Whether it’s savoring a good book, indulging in a favorite hobby, or simply unwinding, make sure to prioritize what brings you joy. Have a great weekend!

I am an avid baker of primarily desserts. I’ve always avoided anything to do with dough because it just takes too long. The kneading and waiting for the mixture to rise quite honestly is irritating to me, so I have never took it upon myself to bake bread. I am a committed Trader Joe’s shopper for over ten years so I have always been satisfied with their selection of bread, but recently, I found myself wanting to bake bread. The ingredients are simple, so I figured I would give it a go. I ended up on Lil Luna’s website where they claim to have the best bread recipe . I figured why not. They did not lie. This is the absolute best plain loaf of bread recipe, because it delivers. This recipe is fool proof and delicious. It refrigerates, freezes and reheats well. So as the season of warm comfort foods approach, try this recipe. Ingredients 2¼ teaspoons active dry yeast (1 packet) 2¼ cups warm water ¼ cup sugar plus 1 pinch 1 tablespoon salt 2 tablespoons vegetable oil 5½ – 6½ cups bread flour butter for topping (optional) Directions In a large bowl or the bowl of a stand mixer, dissolve the yeast in warm water with a pinch of sugar. When the yeast is bubbly and foamy, add the sugar, salt, oil, and 4 cups flour, and mix until smooth. Add remaining flour, ½ cup at a time, to form a soft, smooth dough. The dough should stick just slightly to your finger when touched, but not be overly sticky. Knead for 5-7 minutes, until smooth, then roll into a ball. Place the dough in an oiled bowl, turn over once to coat the top with oil, and cover with plastic wrap. Let rise for one hour, or until doubled. When the dough has risen, punch it down gently and divide it in half. Roll each half of the dough into a long rectangle about 8 inches wide. Roll the dough up, starting at the short edge, to form a cylinder that is approximately 8 inches wide. Repeat with the remaining dough. Place the dough, seam side down, into lightly greased bread pans, and cover with plastic wrap. Let rise for one hour, or until the dough is ½ – 1 inch higher than the top of the pan. Preheat the oven to 375°F. Bake for 30-35 minutes or until the loaves are golden brown and sound hollow when tapped. Brush with melted butter, if desired. Remove to a cooling rack and cool before slicing. MAKES 2 LOAVES. Just a few notes. I typically go with five and a half cups of flour only and I put it all in at once. That’s partly my impatience, but it always succeeds, so I have no qualms about it. If you do try this recipe, go on over to Lil Luna and rate the recipe. Happy baking!

Learning to be a parent is an acquired skill. It is one where you learn through trial and error with love and empathy as your guide. Before I became a mom, I worked as a babysitter for a little over ten years. One of the things that I learned very early on and took into the way I parent is this; when a child is having a tantrum or meltdown in public, this is the moment to exercise shutting out the world with tunnel vision and focus on the needs of your child. I’m sure you’ve been in a situation where you have either witnessed a child having a massive meltdown in public or you yourself have been on the receiving end of that behavior from your child. I implore to every parent in that moment to be unconcerned about what others think. I repeat, please do not think about how your child is making you look . If your child is having a tantrum or a meltdown, especially without causing harm to others or damaging property, do not be concerned about what others think of you in that moment. This is the time for you to shut out the world, employ empathy and focus on meeting the needs of your child. I can’t tell you how many times that I have gotten children to calm down in diabolical situations. When a child is going through a really deep emotional situation, it can become easy to trivialize it in other to downplay what has happened. What may seem small to you is so big to your child, and for parents tempted to reenact their own childhood, I want to ask, “Do you think your two, three, five or seven year old is really trying to embarrass you?” Start with a Hug Tantrums and meltdowns are usually a cry for help, a need for support or a time for parents to reevaluate their methods. I know some days are hard, especially if you have multiple children. I get the pressure of being a primary care taker, but I encourage parents to take those moments when your child is having a deeply emotional moment as a time to connect. You can start with simply giving your child a hug if they’re ready to receive one. No words are needed. Sometimes you may need to move to a quieter space in that process. Just the comfort of a hug can go a long way into helping your child feel that someone cares and understands what they are going through. It may take some time for the tears to slow down, but again, those two minutes can make the world of a difference. What if you are in a rush or in and unsafe situation like driving, I encourage you to get to a place of safety or pause to give that much needed attention. As you work on getting to a place of safety, you can reassure your child that I hear you, and I’m not ignoring you, I just want us to get to a safe place. Then proceed to engage in this simple act of love and kindness. Talk About It If your child is old enough to engage in some dialogue, ask if they want to talk about it. Children tend to be extremely honest and are usually ready to share. Take that time to engage in active listening which gives you a chance to hear your child’s point of view, so that you can now respond with empathy. Don’t be quick to say anything, or it can sometimes be felt as criticism, but rather respond with short phrases like, “ I hear you ,” “I understand,” or “I see why that made you mad.” Sometimes as parents we want to move past the feelings and get to the teachable moment. I have to be honest, I am guilty of doing that sometimes, but I had to learn sometimes, listening is all a child need. They don’t need a speech. Before getting to that teachable moment, be sure that you are truly hearing and listening for the purpose of connection and not simply to respond or be reactionary. Be Solution Driven Now that your child is hopefully a little calmer, again, shutting out everyone’s glaring eyes, take that moment to find solutions. What I liked to do was ask them “How can I help?” You might ask, why would anyone ask a two year old how can I help. All I can tell you in my over ten years of being a babysitter and nine more being a mother, do not underestimate the minds of children. They are creative thinkers if you give them a chance. This is a time to teach your children how to be solution driven rather than simply focusing on the problem. Teaching kids to ask for help and to rind solutions for themselves is ultimately the golden standard that you want to set for children. You will be surprised that by the time they calm down that the problem doesn’t seem to even exist anymore. They can also by then figure out a way to soothe themselves without even needing your help. With almost twenty years of being around younger children, this simple but effective strategy has worked like a charm. As we know, life ebbs and flows, but consistency helps children build trust and security in their caretakers. Knowing that they can feel safe with their emotions is the foundation of all future communication between children and their caretakers. There is also something special about zooming into the needs of your child in those moments of distress. You get to see a child trust you more realizing that you made the time to connect with them rather than be upset or scold them for very normal behavior. By the time I got to my own children, I had perfected the art of shutting the world out, because in those moments, what I continue to realize is that what my child needed was me.

We are at the end of August and this week has been one filled with final preparations for the return to school. At this point, I am more than ready for them to get back to school. We had fun, but I know they are ready to see their friends and start with a whole new group of people. I will also be back at work as a full time substitute teacher in our local high school. I want to make their last weekend fun so we are going to walk from Cohoes into the historic town of Waterford . We will also be heading to the Troy Waterfront Farmers Market . I plan on finishing the final season of Ugly Betty for the umpteenth time as I keep getting a different viewpoint every time I watch. Literally on of the best shows ever. Selling Sunset is coming back soon, so I am patiently waiting for a bit of drama, fashion and beautiful homes. I ended up making a batch of brown butter cookies with my darling older daughter today and two loaves of homemade bread. If you do end up making anything this weekend, happy baking or cooking. Goodbye August and welcome September. If you would like this brown butter cookie recipe, leave a comment.

Let's face it, most of us are not living aesthetically pleasing Instagram and Pinterest worthy lives. Life is messy and we don't have the time or the money to spend on a ton of clear plastic bins to unpack prepackaged food. Though the display is beautiful, it isn't realistic or practical, neither is it easy to maintain. Furthermore, where is the room for the left overs, because with the price of food, who is wasting any for a pretty fridge? As gorgeous as these Pinterest and Instagram refrigerators look, I want to get to the lives of everyday people. The ones with families who go in and out of their fridges, with condiments on the door and a kid who occasionally has to go in there. So in a attempt to get back to reality, here are a few tips on how to organize a fridge for everyday living. 1. Start Fresh: Clean and Declutter Before you dive into organizing, give your fridge a thorough clean. Remove all items and check expiration dates. Dispose of anything that's expired or spoiled; that includes the condiments that haven't been used in six months just sitting on the door. Get rid of them. Wipe down the shelves and drawers with a mixture of water and mild detergent. Really get into these compartments and ensure that any dried up liquids are thoroughly cleaned. This creates a clean slate for your organizing efforts. 2. Categorize and Prioritize Think about how you use your fridge and categorize your items accordingly. Common categories include: Dairy Products:  Milk, cheese, yogurt. Fruits and Vegetables:  Fresh produce, herbs. Meats and Seafood:  Raw proteins, deli meats. Condiments and Sauces:  Ketchup, mustard, salad dressings. Leftovers:  Cooked meals, takeout containers. Drinks:  Juices, sodas, water. An extremely important point is to decide which categories you use most often and should be the most accessible. If you have little ones who are able to get things out of the refrigerator on their own, be sure to keep that in mind when organizing. Their safety when getting things out of the fridge is super important. 3. Utilize Zones Organize your fridge by creating specific zones for each category. Since fridges are not all the same, you would need to decide based on available space on each shelf what goes where. This isn't set in stone, but simply a recommendation based on the temperature of each zone. I think top and middle shelves are flexible. Top Shelves:  Ideal for ready to eat foods such as cooked meats, prepared salads and packaged foods. These areas tend to have the most consistent temperature. Middle Shelves:  Store dairy products here. These shelves are usually the most stable in terms of temperature. Bottom Shelves:  Best for storing meats and seafood, as these are the coldest spots in the fridge. Crisper Drawers:  Use one drawer for fruits and the other for vegetables. These drawers are designed to maintain different humidity levels to keep produce fresh. Fridge Door:  This is the warmest part of the fridge, so keep condiments, sauces, juices, and other items that are less sensitive to temperature fluctuations here. 4. Implement Storage Solutions I recommend investing in a few clear, stackable bins and organizers to help keep items contained and visible. Consider: Adjustable Shelves:  Maximize space by adjusting shelf heights to fit your needs. Baskets:  Ideal for fruits, vegetables, or small items like cheese packets. I don't recommend labeling of these containers because I believe in flexible use. Since they're clear, the family can see what goes where. For items that need an expiration date reminder, I recommend using a sharpie to remind everyone. 5. Practice the FIFO Method FIFO stands for "First In, First Out." Place older items in front and newer items in back. Much like your supermarket, you want to ensure that you use up older items before they spoil, reducing food waste and saving money. 6. Regular Maintenance Set a reminder to check your fridge weekly. Rotate items, check expiration dates, and clean up any spills. This routine maintenance helps keep your fridge organized and your food fresh. 7. Make Use of Fridge-Freezer Space If you have a separate freezer, use it wisely. Label freezer bags with the date and contents, and use bins to organize similar items together. This makes it easier to find what you need and keeps your freezer running efficiently. A well-organized fridge isn’t just about aesthetics—it’s about efficiency, saving time, and making your daily life easier. By following these tips, you can create a fridge that works for you, making meal prep smoother and reducing food waste. Happy organizing! (Photo from Frigidaire)

Being a substitute teacher was not something I planned, but rather a role I fell into. I know this is a temporary stop in my journey, and it is one of the best decisions I have made. Prior to coming into this position, I was recovering from post concussion syndrome due to an encounter with the trunk of my car on a rainy October night. This not only caused the worst pain I ever experienced in my life, but also exacerbated the symptoms of my fibromyalgia . I was having frequent medical appointments not only for myself, but also for one of my daughters who was going through her own health crisis. This caused me to request quite a few late arrivals or early dismissals at my previous job. I was also experiencing bouts of chronic fatigue and brain fog that made concentrating at work difficult. I felt depleted and defeated to the point where I felt I could no longer fulfill the demands of my position. I finally made the decision to hand in my resignation and that was the best decision I made. I had no idea what was going to happen next, except I was tired of feeling unfulfilled. I was ready to start something that gave me true flexibility, autonomy, and where I wasn’t being made to feel that I wasn’t good enough. I was drawn to substitute teaching based on a combination of my life experiences, personal values, and a desire to make a difference in the lives of young people. What better place can I make an impact and feel some semblance of control in my day to day life?! Here are the reasons I have chosen to be a substitute teacher. Familiar Territory When I first moved to the United States, I worked as a nanny/babysitter for about ten years before moving into the corporate world. I still remember the money I made working in that role! That’s a story for another day. When I finally decided to cut the cord in childcare, I had different aspirations. I envisioned a more conventional career path, one that might offer more stability or higher financial rewards. But life has a way of steering us in directions we never anticipated. My journey into education began not with a career plan, but with a series of small, seemingly unrelated experiences that planted the seeds. When I worked in childcare, people frequently stopped to ask if I was a teacher. I quickly quipped no and I have no plans of ever going into such a thankless role. Boy, did the future have a big surprise for me. When my children started school, I always wanted to be actively involved in their school life. I attended all the parent teacher association (PTA) meetings, joined the Equity Committee and the Student Leadership Team (SLT), all of which were meant to empower parents and our school community. At the time, I thought of it as just another way to give back to the community—a way to fill my time with something meaningful. But what I didn’t realize was how much those interactions would impact me. I also showed up to read to my daughters’ classmates, help at breakfast and was even the unofficial face painter at some activities. The way they would be so excited to see me when I came in gave me such joy. These small moments began to add up, and I found myself looking forward to my time with them. A Desire to Make a Difference As I continued to work in the committees and with the kids, I saw the gaps in the education system more clearly. As we discussed subjects of equity and helping in the recruitment of students and staff of a more diverse population, I saw that schools need individuals who genuinely care about the success of their students. This realization sparked something in me. I began to think about how I could play a larger role in the lives of students, how I could help bridge those gaps, and provide the support they so desperately needed. That’s when the idea of substitute teaching came into play. I thought about it, but the timing wasn’t right. I was contemplating a move with my family to another city, so the salary from my job at the time was a necessity. Once I moved to my new city and tested out a new job in Human Resources, I resigned from that role. This was now the perfect time to pursue substitute teaching. This opportunity allowed me to be in the classroom, interact with students, and make an impact, all while giving me the flexibility to explore my options. Flexibility and Freedom One of the biggest appeals of substitute teaching is the flexibility it offers. Unlike a full-time teaching position, which requires a long-term commitment to one classroom and a specific curriculum, substitute teaching allows for a more varied experience. This was particularly appealing to me as someone with an unpredictable chronic illness and the co-parent of young children who does not have a support system around us. As a substitute teacher, I have the freedom to work across different grade levels and subjects, which has given me a broad perspective on the educational system as a whole. One day, I might be teaching elementary school students how to add and subtract, and the next, I could be discussing Shakespeare with high school seniors. This variety keeps the job exciting and allows me to continually learn and grow as an educator. My partner and I were able to coordinated our schedules where he would do morning drop offs and I would do the afternoon pick ups. I appreciate not having to rush out from work to pick up my children. I am able to easily cancel jobs when crises or health matters arise without feeling like I was causing massive disappointment to my colleagues. Additionally, the flexibility of substitute teaching has allowed me to pursue other interests and commitments outside of the classroom. Whether it’s furthering my education, working on personal projects like this blog or spending time with family, substitute teaching provides a work-life balance that is often hard to find in other careers. Building Relationships with Students One of the most rewarding aspects of being a substitute teacher is the relationships I’ve been able to build with students. Though I may be in different classes every day, I’ve found that even in these brief interactions, there’s an opportunity to make a meaningful connection. Amazingly, the group of students I feared the most—high schoolers—have turned out to be the most rewarding. There’s something special about being the “new” teacher in the room. Students are often curious and eager to see how the day will go, and this gives me a unique opportunity to engage with them in a fresh way. I’ve learned that being a good substitute teacher isn’t just about following the lesson plan left by the regular teacher; it’s about bringing your own energy, creativity, and compassion into the classroom. Over time, I’ve developed a knack for quickly reading the room, understanding the dynamics of each class, and finding ways to connect with students. Whether it’s through a shared interest in sports, a love of books, or simply taking the time to listen to their stories, I’ve been able to build rapport with students that often leads to positive learning experiences. I remember one particular instance where I had a particularly difficult third grade class. The disruptions were out of control. There was a group who were amazing, but a few others who were arguing with each other. I was in my second week and completely unprepared for that. By the end of the day I was able to pull everyone together to listen to a story time that they very much enjoyed and participated in. Moments like these remind me of why I chose this path. Facing the Challenges Of course, substitute teaching isn’t without its challenges. There are days when it feels like everything is going wrong. These days can be frustrating and leave you questioning whether you’re making any impact at all.But I’ve come to realize that these challenges are part of what makes the role so important. Being a substitute teacher requires adaptability, patience, and resilience. It’s about being able to walk into a classroom of strangers and quickly establish a sense of order and trust. It’s about being willing to learn on the fly and not being afraid to admit when you don’t have all the answers. Personal Growth and Fulfillment Substitute teaching not only allows me to make a difference in the lives of students but has also been a profound journey of personal growth. It has pushed me out of my comfort zone, challenged my assumptions, and taught me more about myself than I ever could have imagined. It has also made me a more confident public speaker, with a level of assertiveness that I never had before. Through this role, I also have a deeper understanding of the lives of children and teenagers. I’ve come to appreciate the diverse backgrounds and experiences that students bring to the classroom, and how these differences shape their learning. I take pride in trusting my judgment when it comes to my interactions with students, especially when all they need is a little empathy. Moreover, substitute teaching has given me a sense of fulfillment that I hadn’t found in previous jobs. There’s a unique joy in knowing that, even if just for a day, you’ve made a positive impact on a child’s life. Whether it’s helping a student grasp a difficult concept, offering a word of encouragement, or simply being a positive presence in their day, these small acts add up to something much greater. I’ve come to appreciate the unique position that substitute teachers hold—we’re not just fill-ins, but integral parts of the educational ecosystem, providing support and stability when it’s needed most. Most importantly, it has shown me that sometimes, the best decisions are the ones that aren’t planned. It has given me my life back in a way that I could not foresee. Even though this may just be a pit stop, I will value the lessons that this profession has taught me. I will continue to make a difference—one classroom at a time.

When a black woman with a shaved head, high cheekbones and a red lip graces your FYP, you stop and you listen. On this particular day, it was Sunday Times Bestselling Author, journalist and podcaster Candice Brathwaite . Her lighthearted insight takes on the plight of black bodies, primarily Black women, whose style tends to not fall into the category of what is considered chic. In this particular video, Candice says: Having some thoughts. Hmmm. Is it chic or is it just on a white, thin body? Been seeing a lot of these things I find chic trend videos. Do you know what I find chic? Gold grills, baby hairs, a colored wig slayed to perfection, crop tops, booty shorts, a shit ton of gold jewelry (I wanna hear you jingle jangle), a trim with some good waves, a good red lip, a great fake lash. Hmmm. Is it chic or not? or is it just on a black body so you wanna say it's ghetto. I don't know. but I'm just not feeling the 90s beige nail, silk scrunchie. I want more, and more and more. Candice brings up a subject that has been addressed on a multitude of levels and platforms with minimal change. This inquiry cuts to the core of a problematic history with cultural appropriation, selective approval and the double standards within the fashion and beauty industry that often marginalizes Black women and their contributions to style. Far too often, trends pioneered by Black women are often dismissed as “ghetto” until they are repackaged, and worn by individuals who do not know of or understand the cultural origins . It is only at that point this style becomes “chic.” The evidence of this is everywhere—trends that originate in Black communities being frequently co-opted by the high end fashion industry, only gaining widespread acceptance and praise once they are deemed palatable for a certain audience. This is not by coincidence, but rather by design and it is par for the course. For instance, Candice mentions things she finds chic—colored wigs, a shit ton of gold jewelry, a trim with some good waves— and let me add a name plate, long acrylic nail, braids, cornrows, nail art and hoop earrings to name a few. These are elements of style that are deeply rooted in Black culture, yet they are often stigmatized when worn by Black women. Once these same elements are embraced by the fashion industry, they are suddenly seen as trendy and avant-garde, receiving praise from designers, and down to influencers who capitalize on trends they probably do not identify with. The problem here is not the adoption of these styles by others, but rather the erasure of the Black women who have long embraced these trends and the way their contributions are often ignored or trivialized. This is not just about fashion—it’s about the way we are made into guests looking in even when we are the originators of these trends. I remembered watching season 1 of Netflix's Next in Fashion with competitors Kianga "Kiki" Milele and Farai Simoyi . These two accomplished women—one of whom Kiki, a pioneer in street/urban wear—were tasked with creating a street wear themed look. This episode was one to be seen, because the judges placed the team last on the totem pole, except for Haitian- American guest judge Kerby Jean-Raymond , founder and creative director of New York-based label Pyer Moss  and Vice President of Creative Direction at Reebok . Farai addressed the decision by countering with this: We were given street wear and we designed from our perspective and the thing that I've noticed in the fashion industry is it's mostly one voice that's heard. The high-end brands and designers are taking ideas from us very single day. And it only becomes cool when it's high end. For a lot of us, minorities, the underpriviledged, we want you to see us , but it's so hard to be seen. It's really frustrating.… Now whether or not you liked the looks they created, that is a different story, but she was correct in everything she said in front of the judges. Needless to say, her plight wasn’t heard, but if " all heroes don't wear capes was a person ," it would be Kerby. He disagreed steadfastly with the conclusion brought forth by the other judges that their design was the worst, and stated they he actually liked their look. He also gave us insight into his own journey and how difficult it was for him to break into the fashion industry. Kerby eventually walked off the staging refusing to return. There was no elimination in that episode, but this highly uncomfortable and controversial situation gave us a look into the fashion industry's issues with race particularly with recognizing the contributions of Black women designers. Another great example is the infamous boxer braids controversy. The issue again wasn’t that the Kardashians wore the hairstyle—it was the repeat offense of Black culture being mined for its creative output by the fashion and beauty industry. People can wear cornrows and braids every day of the week if they would like to, but this "trend" is not new to us, nor do we need celebrities and influencers who aren't discriminated against for their hair to tell us what is hot or not. It was only in June 2019, after years of advocacy, that The CROWN Act (Creating a Respectful and Open World for Natural Hair) was implemented. This law ensures protection against discrimination based on race-based hairstyles by extending statutory protection to hair texture and protective styles in the workplace and public schools. The CROWN Act is a significant step forward, but it also underscores the fact that Black women have had to fight for the right to wear their hair naturally—a right that should never have been in question. The reality is that Black style is the nexus of fashion. We are the source of many trends that have taken the world by storm and we deserve our flowers. The tide has been turning and with the rise of social media and the increasing visibility of Black creators, there is a growing awareness of these issues. Black women are reclaiming their contributions to fashion, demanding recognition, and challenging the industry to do better. As we move forward, it’s important to continue this conversation and to ensure that Black women’s voices are not only heard but celebrated. Chic is not determined by who wears it—it’s about the creativity, confidence, and culture behind the style. We've been chic all along. It is they who need to catch up. (Photos: Woman with red lip @candicebrathwaite/Instagram, woman in cornrows @jordandunn/Instagram, woman with pink hair How Black Women Pioneered Nail Art/Boulevard, final photo Next in Fashion Season 1 /Farai Simoyi and Kianga "Kiki" Milele)

I recently celebrated one year in our apartment. For the most part, the apartment is decorated, but I seem to struggle in one area, and that is the placement of wall art in specific rooms. The sheer number of choices available—from the kind of art to its placement—has lead to what’s commonly known as analysis paralysis . This state of overthinking has stalled my decorating efforts, leaving the walls of the bathrooms and my bedroom feeling incomplete. Let’s explore the phenomenon of analysis paralysis and practical tips to help us all confidently make decisions about our wall decor. Understanding Analysis Paralysis Analysis paralysis occurs when overanalyzing or overthinking a problem prevents a person from making a decision. In the context of wall decor, this can manifest as endlessly comparing different styles, colors, and layouts without committing to any of them. The fear of making the wrong choice can be overwhelming, leading to procrastination and indecision. Common Causes of Analysis Paralysis in Wall Decor: Overabundance of Options: The multitude of design possibilities can be daunting. Fear of Mistakes: Worrying about making the “wrong” choice can paralyze decision-making. Perfectionism: The desire for everything to be perfect can hinder progress. Lack of Confidence: Uncertainty about design skills or aesthetic judgment can lead to hesitation. Strategies to Overcome Analysis Paralysis 1. Set Clear Goals and Priorities Before diving into the plethora of wall decor options, take some time to define what you want to achieve with your space. Ask yourself questions like: What mood or atmosphere do I want to create? Which color scheme makes me feel comfortable and happy? What look am I trying to achieve? Having a clear vision will help narrow down your choices and make the decision process more manageable. 2. Limit Your Options Limiting your choices can makes decision-making easier as it improves focus. Choose a specific theme or color palette and stick to it. This can drastically reduce the number of options and makes it easier to move forward. 3. Start Small If the idea of decorating an entire room feels overwhelming, start with a small section of your wall. For example, you could begin by creating a gallery wall with a few select pieces and build from there. Small steps build momentum and create a boost in your confidence. 4. Trust Your Instincts Sometimes, the best decisions are made by following your gut. If a particular piece of art or a color speaks to you, trust that instinct. Your home is your sanctuary, and your choices should reflect your unique taste and personality. 5. Seek Inspiration, But Don’t Overdo It Seeking inspiration through design magazines, websites, and social media can provide valuable inspiration, but it can also contribute to analysis paralysis if overdone. Set a limit on how much time you spend gathering ideas. Once you’ve found a few concepts you love, stop searching and start yaking action. 6. Ask for Help If you’re truly stuck, don’t hesitate to seek advice from knowledgeable friends, family, or even professional decorators. Sometimes, an outside perspective can provide the clarity needed to move forward. 7. Embrace Imperfection Remember that nothing is permanent. Wall decor can be changed and updated over time. Embrace the idea that your home is an evolving space and allow yourself the freedom to experiment and make changes as your tastes evolve. Overcoming analysis paralysis when it comes to wall decor is all about finding a balance between thoughtful consideration and decisive action. By setting clear goals, limiting options, starting small, trusting your instincts, seeking inspiration wisely, asking for help, and embracing imperfection, you can create a space that feels truly yours without the stress of endless deliberation. Your walls are a canvas—don’t be afraid to make your mark!